Jessi of Mormon Wives’ said Jordan was surprised and happy, more revelations

The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives star Jessi I’m ticked he makes some baking allowances for the man Jordan ngatikaura Including how he blocked her after her affair, what they lied about on screen and more.

On Wednesday, November 19, episode of the “VIALL FILES” Podcast, Jessi, 33, opened up about her relationship with Jordan and shared that they faced similar issues of emotional abuse in her first marriage.

“My muscle memory is what I used to shout. I remember when I got married for the first time, there were really difficult times,” said Jessi and said that her husband was really difficult. “He was emotionally abusive – I was more than Jordan, to be honest.”

He continued: “Jordan is like that [emotionally abusive] In different ways but I was just sad. So it was normal for marriage to be difficult. At least not as bad as my first one. But later on, there came a time when things got worse. “

Season 3, which aired on Thursday, November 13, shows Jessi coming clean after a two-week affair with Vanderpum Villa‘ Marciano Brunette. During the show, he also talked about the emotional trauma he had with Jordan and how they found a way to reconcile again.

However, Jessi’s podcast appearance on Wednesday told a different story, but when she revealed what has never been released, her on-screen infidelity and how bad things are in her marriage to Jordan. Keep scrolling for his biggest revelations:

Previous marriage before Jordan

“We were both married before. Jordan was in a long-term relationship after his first marriage so he had a girlfriend of three to four years. I was married. “After I left my husband, Jordan broke up with that girlfriend of four years and has been divorced since he was 18.”

Jessi met Jordan at a meeting of mutual friends.

My husband came with me until they became a couple [these group dinners]. One of the dinner parties right after we broke up, I showed up by myself and Jordan was like, ‘Where’s your husband?’ I was like, ‘we broke up, we’re breaking up,'” he added. He is like my girlfriend, ‘me and my girlfriend just broke up last week.’ So we sat down and talked for hours about our breakup and just bonded over it. Then a week or two later, he asked me and I said yes. “

Jessi continued: “I was going through a divorce when I was in a relationship with Jordan, who was not recommended. But at the time, I felt like I wanted to heal the disorders and something to help prepare for the pain of the divorce.”

Similar to his first marriage

Jessi experienced emotional abuse in her first marriage, as well as in her relationship with Jordan.

“I didn’t heal from my first marriage which was spiritually abusive and I jumped into a second marriage repeating the same patterns,” he noted. “The main reason why I am where I am is because I didn’t heal so I allowed the same thing to happen to me twice.”

However, Jessi clarified, that Jordan and Zach were very different people.

“[My first husband is] He is a good Mormon boy so I thought I was marrying a safe choice. He had a good family and was in church. He was a returned missionary and he was great for the first few years, he said. After that he got dressed and stopped working. Things just went downhill and he had a lot of anger issues. “

He went on to say: “But I got out of that marriage and it was broken because of that and I was carrying many wounds in the marriage I have now. Now history has repeated itself.”

Jessi later clarified the religious issues in her first marriage. Although she is no longer a practicing Mormon, Jessi revealed that she is “closed” from her husband in the church, who refuses to allow her.

When his ex got married and sealed with his current wife, Jessi’s efforts stopped. He has referred to the “sorrow of religion” as playing a role in other issues in his life.

What made the news about Jordan

“In my opinion, the biggest success I got was probably Jordan [felt] He threatened a little because he was not a provider, “comments.” Men struggle with that sometimes, especially in Mormon culture. Even though he is not Mormon, he grows up in that community and has a certain way of thinking. “

Jessi said the fact that she was a councilor was “threatening” to her husband, adding, “Jordan ended up quitting his job and he thought it had a lot to do with the way he played me.” (Jessi is also mentioned on the Podcast that she became a “Multimillionaire within a few years,” courtesy of JZ’s hair care company.)

Warning Signs

Looking back on the early days of her marriage, Jessi realized that she didn’t ask the “right questions” to Jordan.

“I jumped in very quickly and was literally used [our relationship] like a band-aid. So I wish I had taken more time, “he said.” For example, I left my husband in September and Jordan and I got married in March. It was very fast. I am very forced. “

According to Jessi, “everyone” in her life saw how Jordan treated her in season 3, adding, “The hardest part is now no one likes Jordan.

Changing His Name

Jessi confirmed that her choice to go by the last name Draper over Ngatikaura had nothing to do with the status of her marriage. He pointed out the issues of pronunciation and branding as the reasons he publicly chose to use Ngatikaura.

A real timeline of events

Despite how it was revealed on the show, Jessi was not separated from Jordan when she found out about Marciano.

“The reason I left was because we had been dealing with him for six months after that six months. He was threatening to send my texts. “Anytime I did anything he didn’t agree with, he had it on Tiktok and he was like, ‘I’m going to send it.'”

Jessi continued: “It was very toxic. I remember the day I left him, it got to the point where he was filming me and I just kicked him out. It was terrible.”

Jessi confirmed that she was still living with Jordan when she started dating Marciano.

“When Jordan and I were dealing with this, he said to me, ‘If someone ever finds out, we need to say that we were separated because that’s why it’s important.’ I remembered Jordan telling me how he wanted me to handle this if someone found out,” he recalls. “He finally said, ‘If this is going to come out, we have to tell the truth.'”

This couple didn’t want to be ‘led by a lie and caught up in it.

The worst aspects of their marriage

“It was a lot of Jordan controlling the way I dressed, what I did, what I said, that I worked with this frame and started running,” said my heart. “It was the little things. I felt like I was always walking on eggshells with Jordan. I couldn’t do anything right.”

Jessi said that Jordan “Jorda” “called her bad names, ‘physically prevented’ her from leaving during the argument and eventually witnessed their children. (Jordan will be telling her side of the story on the Thursday, November 20, episode of the “VIALL FILES” Podcast.)

According to Jessi, the turning point was when Jordan told their children that they were getting a divorce.

“That’s when I was like, ‘this is unhealthy and we can’t let our kids see that.’ We will not use them as pawns,” he added. “That was the worst part of our breakup because it was really bad. That was when he yelled at me and I started to see the consequences of my children and I saw what could happen to them.”

The couple managed to get to a better place but not before the news made big news.

“At this time he was very careful about his image and continued to use the name that created cases,” he recalls. “That’s all he cared about. It was a shame he cheated. He’s inferior to a man because he couldn’t cheat and you didn’t do it to him.”