Jen Hatmaker opens about sex shame that affect his marriage

Jen Hatmaker Thinking about how the ritual of cleanliness affected her marriage in her ex-MRI Brandon.

The latest Podcast Jamie Kern, “Jamie Kern Lima showed,” HGTV star was opened in the way they broke “Sexual Shame” developed in his marriage in Brande, 53.

Jen, 51, remembered a story in his days as a young teenager when his church teaches him “sex education” using a flower metaphor. He explained that they were told that they were like a flower – the gift of “clean” and “Pristine” should be given only by their husbands. They are warned that the activities such as having sex with their boys or letting people touch their bodies before marriage will be a gift, such as the petal.

“For the first time, I was told about the spiritual authority I was a real problem, that my body, or my opinion, and it was my faults,” explains that, “said Jen.

Jen has added to education in such sexual expectations early in life returned to worry when they finally marry.

“The matter was given many of us at our time, at our very important time, and I treated my marriage shyness. Surely,” he said.

Jen added that he and Brandon were married to small and now “made the matter,” meaning no one with them to save the wedding as they had been taught.

“So we are already in our relationship with guilt, ashamed, filled with secrets, because it is not allowed to talk about it or to be honest with it,” he said. “Therefore grew it in, and it is very deteriorating.”

Jen also produced the damage caused by being told to give up on sexual desires.

“Certainly, in fact, is our wedlock when you are repeated for many of these sexual feelings, desires, behavior, evaluating, everything is unclean, because he is unclean.

He added: “So I walked in that conflict in my marriage, because, that’s right, and told that ‘don’t be Slutty and sex.’ But when you finally get married and have sex, be beautiful.

Jen and Brandon’s relationship has been included My big family repairsWhat was planned in 2014. The couple then announced their divisions by 2020 following nearly three decades.

“Brandon and I have separated. Though the details belong to the solitary confinement, this was not fully expected, and I remain so complicated when we speak.” Take a loved one in your hearts. We have heard your prayers a few weeks ago. We saw your mercies. Thank you for being fun to us. Please help us succeed and keep safe as we try to treat and rebuild. “

Both Brandon and Jen have moved to the back of their divorce. Brandon is now married Tina HatmakerWhile Jen finds love for a boyfriend Tyler Merritt.